if u have not run into problems in your recent life (except small routine ones) it is not because u had money, or that the problems got scared of the money u had. it was because of your habits, your life management. and, in most likelihood, because those were just your fears,insecurities, phobias,imagination gone wild.....therefore, it is a myth that u must have more and more and lot of money to ensure u don't run into problems in life. it is a phobia of fear of pain. unknown, often unbased, exaggerated, illogical
if those giant problems were to actually come someday and in those proportions, no amount of money might be able to help u. u might say that many of the life's difficulties can be taken care of......while u r right if u say that, actual amount u might need might be much less than the unlimited unknown amount u may be slogging lifelong unknowingly sacrificing everything on the way.
it is, therefore, of critical importance that u earn more and spend less. more earning means increasing your value addition and market worth and being paid accordingly without flogging or losing sleep (and smile) over this. less spending means saying no to anything which can be. the extent to increase in earning and extent to decrease in spending can be gauged with the 80/20 thumb rule......80% of the things and tasks and joys can be achieved and done with 20% (or say 40%,50%) of the money.......or 80% of the earning can be increased with 20% efforts....when this 80% comes at 50% cost or more u r stretching at the cost of quality of life.
quality life is all about finding that approximate sweet spot. anything less, and u r underdoing it, underachieving under-utilising yourself. anything more and u r missing the the very purpose for what u were doing it all.
unhappiness is caused because u seek guarantee of permanence of solution instead of solution. permanence is a mirage because life is a dynamic process. only your approach can be permanent. and that may be enough. rest is in god's hands and u should give him that much of space with love and obedience.
if u have not run into problems in your recent life (except small routine ones) it is not because u had money, or that the problems got scared of the money u had. it was because of your habits, your life management. and, in most likelihood, because those were just your fears,insecurities, phobias,imagination gone wild.....therefore, it is a myth that u must have more and more and lot of money to ensure u don't run into problems in life. it is a phobia of fear of pain. unknown, often unbased, exaggerated, illogical
if those giant problems were to actually come someday and in those proportions, no amount of money might be able to help u. u might say that many of the life's difficulties can be taken care of......while u r right if u say that, actual amount u might need might be much less than the unlimited unknown amount u may be slogging lifelong unknowingly sacrificing everything on the way.
it is, therefore, of critical importance that u earn more and spend less. more earning means increasing your value addition and market worth and being paid accordingly without flogging or losing sleep (and smile) over this. less spending means saying no to anything which can be. the extent to increase in earning and extent to decrease in spending can be gauged with the 80/20 thumb rule......80% of the things and tasks and joys can be achieved and done with 20% (or say 40%,50%) of the money.......or 80% of the earning can be increased with 20% efforts....when this 80% comes at 50% cost or more u r stretching at the cost of quality of life.
quality life is all about finding that approximate sweet spot. anything less, and u r underdoing it, underachieving under-utilising yourself. anything more and u r missing the the very purpose for what u were doing it all.
unhappiness is caused because u seek guarantee of permanence of solution instead of solution. permanence is a mirage because life is a dynamic process. only your approach can be permanent. and that may be enough. rest is in god's hands and u should give him that much of space with love and obedience.
let me share a simple example. having a smart phone is ok. but dumping one and coughing out more to upgrade to the one with wireless charging is a brutal example of stretching your life at the cost of quality.
while one can afford it as of now twenty around him may not despite feeling the psychological pressure to catch up
world around us is full of such examples.
to start with, if u begin to scrutinize and curb big ticket expenses, u would have made dramatic qualitative change to your life.
